Warn/help users who probably got the arguments in the wrong order:
danw@technomage:blanche> ./blanche danw -a some-list
WARNING: "LIST:some-list" was just added to list "danw".
If you meant to add yourself to the list "some-list", type:
blanche danw -d some-list (to undo this)
blanche some-list -a danw (to add yourself to that list)
danw@technomage:blanche> ./blanche danw -d some-other-list
./blanche: Unable to find member some-other-list to delete from danw
(If you were trying to remove yourself from the list "some-other-list",
the correct command is "blanche some-other-list -d danw".)
The warning message is given when the user tries to add a list to the
list with his/her username, and the help message is given when the
user tries to delete something from the list with his/her username and
it fails.
Additional, unrelated change: make the usage note document
`-db/-database' instead of `-S/-server' (to match the moira client).
The old options are still supported, just not documented.